American friendships make me frustrated. Don't get me wrong, I am a full-blooded-mutt-American, but it hurts sometimes how superficial we all are. Example - You work someplace for a long time and assume the friendships you have there are going to last. Then when you stop working at that place, or even that location, it is like you no longer exist. Like those Verizon commercials with the "Dead zone." All my emails and calls just never get returned...but I knew this person for 6 years! They came to my wedding, and they've had me over to their home.
I thought it was just me, but I overheard a person talking about just the same thing. It got me to thinking about how many close friends I have since exiting high school. That's when it hit me that you must be very lucky to have a handful of good friends post high school and college.
I wonder what in our society keeps us from forging close bonds with people. Is it the danger that their failures might rub off on us and we remove them to the lepper colony in our brains? We've had so many good times together...and now I am dead to them.
So after experiencing this myself, it makes me less likely to make new friends because I invest so much into it. If this cycle is going to keep happening it would explain why so many old men are so damn grumpy.
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I understand your frustration and it is really upsetting when you find out the friends you thought you had were never really your friends. Sometimes you and those friends in high school and college (sororities/fraternities) make promises that you'll be friends forever, but that's so rare and those promises are so often empty.
Sometimes you don't find those life long friends in high school or college. Sometimes you find the people who are going to be in your life later on, through spouses and through other friends. There's no rule that your best friend has to be someone you've known since you were 15.
So all this to say: don't be discouraged. You have good people, good friends in your life, you've just not known them as long as some other people who have faded into the background.
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